Emotional Regulation- Challenging Myths
- MYTH: There is a right way to think in every situation. CHALLENGE: Everyone reacts differently. What’s most important is choosing how to handle it.
- MYTH: Letting others know that I am feeling bad will make them like me less. CHALLENGE: When I chose to share significant feelings and I have chosen good timing and I approach it well I can trust my friends to be there to listen.
- MYTH: Negative feelinngs are bad and destructive. CHALLENGE: Negative feelings are not inherently bad. The way I chose to react to them has the possibility of being destructive or constructive. Negative feelings can help me identify areas for improvement.
- MYTH: Being emotional means being out of control. CHALLENGE: Being emotional can be private and can be powerful. Only my actions are at risk of being out of control if I let them.
- MYTH: Emotions just happen for no reason at all. CHALLENGE: There will always be a trigger of some sort and I can learn to prepare myself for how to react to any situation.
- MYTH: Some emotions are stupid. CHALLENGE: No emotions are stupid. The actions I take based on these feelings and how long I chose to experience the feelings can be very misguided and reckless but having emotions is always OK.
- MYTH: All emotional responses are the result of a bad attitude. CHALLENGE: Emotions are a response to various triggers and situations. A bad attitude is only relevant in how much you let yourself be controlled by the emotions.
- MYTH: If other don’t approve of my feelings then I should not feel the way I do. CHALLENGE: If others don’t approve of my feelings it is worth it for me to consider their perspective but it does not invalidate my emotions.
- MYTH: Other people are the best judge of how I am feeling. CHALLENGE: Others can provide insight and sometimes notice indicators I may ignore. However, I am the best judge of how I am feeling and it is important to be honest with myself.
- MYTH: Painful emotions should be ignored. CHALLENGE:
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