Emotional Regulation- Challenging Myths

  1. MYTH: There is a right way to think in every situation.  CHALLENGE:   Everyone reacts differently.  What’s most important is choosing how to handle it.
  2. MYTH:  Letting others know that I am feeling bad will make them like me less.  CHALLENGE:  When I chose to share significant feelings and I have chosen good timing and I approach it well I can trust my friends to be there to listen.
  3. MYTH:  Negative feelinngs are bad and destructive.  CHALLENGE:  Negative feelings are not inherently bad.  The way I chose to react to them has the possibility of being destructive or constructive.  Negative feelings can help me identify areas for improvement.
  4. MYTH:  Being emotional means being out of control.  CHALLENGE:   Being emotional can be private and can be powerful.  Only my actions are at risk of being out of control if I let them.
  5. MYTH:  Emotions just happen for no reason at all.  CHALLENGE:   There will always be a trigger of some sort and I can learn to prepare myself for how to react to any situation.
  6. MYTH:  Some emotions are stupid.  CHALLENGE:   No emotions are stupid.  The actions I take based on these feelings and how long I chose to experience the feelings can be very misguided and reckless but having emotions is always OK.
  7. MYTH:  All emotional responses are the result of a bad attitude.  CHALLENGE:  Emotions are a response to various triggers and situations.  A bad attitude is only relevant in how much you let yourself be controlled by the emotions.
  8. MYTH:  If other don’t approve of my feelings then I should not feel the way I do.  CHALLENGE:  If others don’t approve of my feelings it is worth it for me to consider their perspective but it does not invalidate my emotions.
  9. MYTH:  Other people are the best judge of how I am feeling.  CHALLENGE:   Others can provide insight and sometimes notice indicators I may ignore.  However, I am the best judge of how I am feeling and it is important to be honest with myself.
  10. MYTH:  Painful emotions should be ignored.  CHALLENGE: 

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